When I used to play tennis regularly, I remember when the match was really close, I would say to my partner, “We have to play to win, not to not loose. Let’s go for our shots!” It may sound like it’s conservative versus aggressive, but it’s not. “Aggressive” can be too much, I was simply suggesting that we play our usual game of tennis and that we don’t play scared. Do you see the difference?

How much of our lives are what they are because we were afraid? Maybe we didn’t play “our game.” We were afraid of being fired, not being liked, making waves, scene as “that” employee, not getting the promotion or the bonus, so we said nothing. We took it on the chin and figured it would all work itself out because we were hard workers and “valued” employees so that would be rewarded—until it wasn’t. Does this resonate?

Today, I want us all to think about what kind of game we are playing. We don’t have to change everything today, but if we can simply declare our truth, “I’m totally playing to win,” or “I’m definitely playing to not lose.” And if you should happen to learn that you are “playing to not lose,” simply give that some thought. Do you want to change that? If so, you will need to make a plan of how you can do that. If you need some help, reach out to me. There are a number of small changes you can make that will help shift the tides in your favor.

Let’s GO! WE GOT THIS!
Beth